Confrontation - The only thing in this I have always run away from. And no I am not running away from the physical kind, where you get to land a few blows and wake up with a swollen eye, these kind I love. But the sorts where you have to explain what you feel, why you feel, why do you feel hurt/betrayed/anguished and then watch the person uneasily squirm.
But first things first, why am I blogging about this? Because I realized that by running away from these confrontations (even the little ones) I was also methodologically ruining every relationship (all sorts) I have.
Confrontations provide you with an opportunity to express, make understand and comprehend yourselves
Processes that are essential for maintaining any healthy relationship.By not expressing myself clearly in the hopes of avoiding a (yet again) confrontation, I am missing on the benefits that confrontations bring. Did you go "what benefits? do tell!!" Pray, read on.
Why do I run away? Idk. Extremely short and sweet. I have no freaking idea.Plain and simple. Truth, vitriolic truth.
I have seen people around me, use these confrontations for their benefit. Used them as pedestals for going from strength to strength in a relationship.And not just relationships, in an organsation, the slightest of confrontation, here and then allows you to walk with a swagger and exclaim boldly "I may not be the boss, but yeah I fought with him. What did you do twit?".
Did your brain go, "Oh yes, that might be true.But confrontations helping in a relationship, no way!! "
A curious case but the curious things about confrontations is that they always happen in public domains whilst the patch-ups always behind closed doors. So the confrontation unnecessary as it may be, allows for the creation of a private audience. Oh, If I might say a few unwise words not only I will be allowed to apologise, but also add on a few add on words.Interesting?
Well, I dont particuarly understand how "The great human social experience" works, I just know that confrontations do play an important role, maybe like the ladders an the snakes and ladders game.
